Genesis 2:21-25, “And the LORD God caused a deep sleep to fall on Adam, and he slept; and He took one of his ribs, and closed up the flesh in its place. Then the rib which the LORD God had taken from man He made into a woman, and He brought her to the man. And Adam said: ‘This is now bone of my bones And flesh of my flesh; she shall be called Woman, because she was taken out of Man.’ Therefore a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and they shall become one flesh. And they were both naked, the man and his wife, and were not ashamed.”
In Genesis 2 we have the original marriage, the origin of marriage. If you talk to most people on the streets they know the story of Adam and Eve and how God made them and brought them together, but unfortunately, most people don’t know much about the first marriage and the principles that are taught.
In Mark 10 and Matthew 19, Jesus pointed every marriage back to the principles of the original marriage here in Genesis 2 and therefore made this section of Scripture something all of us should know very well as family fundamentals – marriage musts.
I encourage you to prayerfully read through the passage and ask God to teach you and plant these principles deep in your heart. Here are just a few thing you’ll find:
1. Marriage is the work of God.
When the first marriage took place, Adam was lonely – and in God’s perfect timing, while Adam was sleeping, God took a rib from Adam and fashioned it into a wife; He then brought her to the man. It was completely the work of God. Since marriage is the work of God, we must let Him bring us our spouse, and we must look to Him for instruction, wisdom, and guidance while married. Marriage only thrives, when God is at the very center of the relationship.
2. Married couples must “leave and cleave.”
When God establishes a couple, all other relationships become secondary at best, including father, mother, best friends, and extended family. We must, in that sense, “leave” and then “cleave” (be joined) to our spouse. If anyone comes between, or before you and your spouse, you are not “leaving,” and you will be in big trouble. If you are not holding tight and getting to know your spouse more and more each day, you will drift apart.
3. Married couples must be one (together).
Decades of marriage counseling has revealed to me that the two main problems in failing marriages are when one’s own relationship with God is not right, and when the couple is not one – in a practical sense. I’ve seen some couples with separate bank accounts, or separate friendships, and separate interests, basically…separate lives. The marriage consummation is an indication that the two lives are now one positionally, and they therefore should be one practically. You need to be on the same page; prayerfully and Spiritually identify any ways you are not one, and humbly work out those differences together.
4. What God has joined together, let not man separate.
Don’t let yourself, the world, or the enemy separate you in any way. Don’t you remember when you said, “I do?” God put you together, why would you undo, what God has done?
Until the whole world hears, your brother in Christ,
(Originally written November 17, 2014)